Thursday, May 25, 2006


Dear MIL,

Why would you name your son something you never planned to call him? If it was your intent to call him by his middle name since the day he was born, why not save everyone the aggrevation and opt for the one you plan to use EVERY SINGLE DAY?

Thanks to you, we have to go by "First Initial-dot-middle name" on all important documents. As you may have guessed, most forms do not accommodate this quirk. So he chose to follow your stupid example from childhood, using his middle name as his first and the first initial as if it were his middle. All well and good for his boy scout badge, not so much on our car loan and credit applications.

As the bill payer and overall organized party of our household, I am the person who has to deal with these agencies. Like the phone company who won't speak to me because I gave the incorrect sequencing of his name last week. Or the bank teller who didn't want to cash a check on our account because they don't have his full name on file.

Only someone with your skill could mess up something so simple.



Anonymous Anonymous said...

you are obviously not from the south (nor am i,just a transplant)...but i am guessing your husband and/or mil are...that is the BIG thing in the your kid and call them by the middle name...when i first moved here, of the 25 men that i supervised...17 of them did not go by their first name!!! CRAZY i say!

8:34 AM  
Blogger DD said...

Nothing like having an identity crisis start off when you're a your very own mother.

12:51 PM  
Blogger Jamie Dawn said...

I've known people who do that. I don't really know the logic behind it (if there is any) but your hubby isn't the only one so "blessed."
I have a couple of uncles who have never gone by any of their real names. For example, my Uncle Bud's name is Clarence. Bud isn't his middle name either. Funny thing is, he named his son Buddy.

8:45 PM  
Blogger mrschip said...

While not officially a first initial. middle name issue (F. Murray Abraham, G. Gordon Liddy!), my husband was named Herbert. His parents called him Chip from the start. I'm eternally grateful I don't have to call him Herb, Herby, Bert, Berty, or Sherberty.

6:20 AM  
Blogger Paula said...

I never really got that idea either. My dad is Charles Graham and he's called Graham, my uncle is Robert Bruce and he's Bruce. I never got that and think it's silly and I am from the south where it is a BIG custom to do so. LOL

8:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh just grow up about it. My son goes by his inicials and so does his father. You don't like the custom so don't do it to your kid.

1:37 PM  
Blogger Saur♥Kraut said...

I've always wondered why people do this. I named my son a couple different good names, so he could eventually go with whatever he liked. But he likes his first name just fine. The only problem is that everyone wants to shorten it to a nickname and he politely corrects them each time. Must be a southern thing.

6:02 PM  
Blogger My float said...

Oh dear, my parents did exactly the same thing with me. My parents gave me three first names, and chose to use the THIRD one. Can I just say here what a PAIN in the butt it is?

(Thank you!)

2:37 AM  
Blogger grody jo-dee said...

my PILs did that with both of their sons.....they didn't want their sons to be called by their first names, so they say. i think, if you don't like the first name well enough to use, then PICK A NAME YOU DO LIKE and put that name first. it does cause all kinds of confusion, and is a pain in the ass to explain to someone who's confused.

on the other hand, i always know when it's a telemarketer....because they ask for the hubby by his first name!

10:36 PM  
Blogger Daughter In Law said...

I guess anonymous #2 is another slacker who ruined her kid's life.

By the way, calling your kid A.J. for Anthony James is different than what I'm referring to here. But someone who can't spell initials would probably be confused by that.

4:50 PM  
Blogger Paula said...

OMG what flew up Anonymous #2's butt and died? I would seriously doubt her ability to name her own child when she can't even spell initials correctly.

8:55 PM  
Blogger Linda said...

This is just SO funny that you'd mention husband is a guy. We're a military family. Guess just how often people have CHANGED his forms with the name.initial? OMG we fight the government all the time.

What's your first name? "W"...middle name? "Scott". Then you see the form Scott W....what? We don't really KNOW our own name so you as the government take it upon yourself to change this????

My hubby had his first name LEGALLY changed to W to prevent this...of course, he was named after his father, so dad went by Wayne and hubby went by the middle name so's not to confuse anyone. We of course named our child Scott as well...but there will be NO middle name as a first name...MIL's are scary sometime!!!

5:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You're life's pretty sad if you have to dedicate yourself to whining about your mil. If you dislike her so much, just don't have anything to do with her.

I have an uncle that goes by his middle name and always has. My grandfather's best friend was named "Dewayne" My grandmother couldn't find a middle name that she liked to go with it, but found that Allen Duane (she changed the spelling from grandpa's friend) went well together. They have always called him Duane because that's the name my Grandfather loved. Before he retired, in his career he went by Allen, by friends and family we all call him Duane.

Why people need to make this an issue is really rediculous...put the given name on paper work, doesn't really matter if that's the name you go by or not. @@@@

6:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This isn't at all uncommon. One sees it often in well-to-do families in the Eastern U.S. Think J. Paul Getty, F. Scott Fitzgerald, J. William Fulbright, etc.

10:06 PM  

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