Saturday, May 13, 2006

Mother's Day Challenge Post

SIL told hubby to buy gift card for MIL. He told her he will buy one at $50. She feels that $75 would be better. Our reason for wanting to stick with the $50? All gifts to us from MIL are from Amazing Savings (cheap, close out store) or are re-gifted from students in her class! So why should we spend our money on her? Argh.


Blogger Not Good Enough said...

$50.00 is more than adequete. Especially since the same appreciation is not shown for you. If the SIL wants it to be $75 she can spend the extra $25 herself!

4:15 PM  
Blogger Daughter In Law said...

seperate gifts.

6:37 PM  
Blogger keesh said...

I think it sounds like someone needs to appreciate what you give and not expect more.
Something is wrong with your other blog...did you delete it?

4:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is the current slippery slope I find myself on as well. For Christmas I got an assortment of Oil of Old Age products...a face mask and lotion which I discovered were expired. 3 months later I got the identical expired useless gifts for my birthday. Considering I still have expired face mud left over from 1986, I have no plans to use any of it.

My quandry is that I'm trying to out cheap my MIL, but that is more work than just buying a nice gift and being done with it. A quandry to be sure.

7:41 AM  
Blogger Alli said...

LOL - this is the funniest thing I have read in a long time. THANK YOU for making me laugh my ass off today.

12:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As a mil, a dil, a sil, DH a DS, a DW, a mom and a friend.....I just give the gift I feel most comfortable with...that includes the cost, what it is, etc...I put a lot of thought into gifts I give to anyone. I do try to surprise with a gift that has real meaning, value or sentiment to them. I try to get to know them and their desires. I listen to them with my heart. And I throughly enjoy the process.

However, rarely in my life have I gotten the same thought process in exchange and after so many dissapointing occasions growing up and through my young adult life, one day, I turned 40 and I just stopped caring what if anything, I might get in return or did the gifts recieved equal the gift I gave.

I choose instead to focus only on what I want to give that reflects me, my heart, the person I strive to be. I choose to give gifts because I want to... not because I feel obligated or guilty, even to evil mils, fils, sils, and ok my own siblings too...

Rarely do I get to experience the joy of gift giving in person since I live no where near any family, but. Frankly, I didn't expect change from anyone (as you can only change yourself), and for a long time I wasn't dissapointed.

But lately, I've been very nicely surprised over the course of the past year by equally thoughtful gestures and gifts (some as simple as heart felt poems), and yes....even Thank Yous!

So what's my point? Only gift give if you desire to do so and do so from the heart with no expectations.

It may take time, but you might be surprised.

1:58 PM  
Blogger Daughter In Law said... way to get around that, is to order crap from home interior parties. I never want to go, or like the stuff they have, but you HAVE to buy something. Ta-daaaa! Instant crappy MIL gift. And non-returnable. So there!

1:59 PM  
Blogger Paula said...

My solution is simple - I leave the MIL gift giving to her son. LOL If he don't get her anything, she don't get anything! LOL

I gave up buying her gifts a few years ago.

10:53 AM  
Anonymous blameme said...

We cannot send my MIL "things" because she is an honest to god hoarder. We send her flowers or gift certificates to restaurants or movies.

She never called to thank him. His sister (who doesn't live with the mother) called. He had spent the weekend trying to call her. She never answered her home phone and her cellphone has been disconnected. I cannot 'get' this woman. Thinking about her makes me simultaneously angry and sad.

11:58 AM  

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