Tuesday, April 04, 2006

When are you gonna learn?

so the hubby is talking to the evil MIL on the phone the other day, and she says, "i was just callinng to see if you were still alive. we haven't heard from you." which by the way, he did call last week. you weren't home and didn't return the call.

the hubby then pointed out that calling is a two-way street. when we call you, and you don't return our call, then the ball is in your court. also, if you don't choose to call us, then how is our fault that you haven't talked to us?

p.s. if you send my daughter that awful betty crocker toy vacuum you keep mentioning (hello! i didn't even know that betty crocker made toys), then i will goodwill it. you 've been told repeatedly that we don't like and have no room for large plastic toys. you CAN give us toys we hate, but we CAN give it to charity.

7 Comments:

Blogger Jamie Dawn said...

I wish calling was a two-way street, but sadly, it isn't. My dad & brother call me, and I them every couple of days. I call my mom about twice a week, but she's so busy, she doesn't call. I email my MIL once or twice a week.
My hubby calls his dad to talk to him, but his dad never calls him.
I guess some people just don't make the effort to pick up the phone and call.

2:47 PM  
Blogger Yome said...

I feel your pain with the big plastic toys thing! My MIL keeps trying to buy that kind of stuff for my son and it drives me insane because I like his toys to be educational in some way (buttons, lights, colours etc..) but she insists on buying lots of random plastic stuff that has no educational benefits at all so they just take up space!!

4:00 PM  
Blogger Daughter In Law said...

Only thing better than big and plastic, is big, plastic and NOISY!

Jamie Dawn's comment reminded me of the episode of 7th heaven where they're all on the phone.

4:55 PM  
Blogger Saur♥Kraut said...

...and how sexist to send your daughter a toy vacuum cleaner! Tell the MIL to send her a cool truck, instead.

11:56 AM  
Blogger Elizabeth said...

I do have to say, at least your dh stands up to her and tells her how it is (at least in this instance) I know too many men who roll over and play dead when it comes to their mothers...

4:43 AM  
Blogger karen! said...

Yeah! you go!

12:47 PM  
Anonymous littleB said...

What is so horrible about calling your own child? My parents do it all the time.

I used to remind my husband to call his mother once a week, which he did, but she never answered. His once-per-week call became hours of dialing and trying to get through until he finally gave up.

After a month or so of this, we'd get a call from his sister wondering why we haven't called 'mom'. Repeat this cycle over and over for years, and you'll start to understand our frustration.

'Mom' has never called him since I met him; not for a birthday, not for a hello, not at all. When she wants to get in contact with him, his sister calls; and we call his sister now if we're trying to call 'mom'.

When MIL owned a business, we could sometimes reach her there, but often couldn't contact her because an employee would let us know that she was on vacation.

The last time she visited us, we offered to buy her an answering machine (she's loaded by the way), but she refused, saying that she has no use for one. When we talked about not being able to reach her by phone, she said that she doesn't answer her phone anymore - it's too much of a hassle and if she needs someone, she'll call them. Or, actually, she'll call husband's sister - and husband's sister will call them.

You'd think that there was some rift between MIL and husband, but there's none that I know of. Whenever he does anything of note, she calls the local paper and has it published. He paid for his education himself and the money that he once borrowed from her was paid back with interest. When he lived in her home the summer between High School and college, he paid rent. I know that she's mad because he moved away, but there's not much television work in her rural area. It feels like she's punishing him for something - maybe it's that he's not miserable.

8:32 AM  

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